I’m tired of the whole bread winner argument. I understand that there are situations where this fits (i.e immigrants who don’t speak the language or are tied to a draconian visa) but if you marry into someone to have them cleaning your flat you should probably get settled for something better.
In my own case, as a single I was living into 1/4 of the cost of my married life. Because my car was not good enough, my house was not good enough, my clothes weren’t good enough for my salary I got into the overpriced premium for literally the same life.
Soon after my then spouse entered the “why should I work phase if your can afford to pay it all” and decided to stay at home and “find myself again”
I couldn’t bring my friends over because they are dirty, loud or annoying.
I couldn’t travel alone because “I was going to cheat”, so every business trip I had to take during my married live I had to pay to bring my ghost.
After a very stressful divorce I’m back to where I started and cry of happiness when I leave a dirty underwear in the bathroom and no one screams at me.
In my own case, as a single I was living into 1/4 of the cost of my married life. Because my car was not good enough, my house was not good enough, my clothes weren’t good enough for my salary I got into the overpriced premium for literally the same life.
Soon after my then spouse entered the “why should I work phase if your can afford to pay it all” and decided to stay at home and “find myself again”
I couldn’t bring my friends over because they are dirty, loud or annoying.
I couldn’t travel alone because “I was going to cheat”, so every business trip I had to take during my married live I had to pay to bring my ghost.
After a very stressful divorce I’m back to where I started and cry of happiness when I leave a dirty underwear in the bathroom and no one screams at me.