So you owned a previous home, presumably before the real estate has rocketed, and your wife is also in the tech industry...
If I want to move now and I do not own a home neither have millions to fork, and my wife is not in the tech industry...
also its not clear how bad your commute time is.
Not sure where outside SF you can live and still be able to commute everyday without being 4 hours on roads a day... there is no public transportation in the us