You're there by choice because your BF needs your help, yet you write about how you're surprised they won't fire you. That probably makes less sense than any feature request they have sent you.
It's a good question though.
After analyzing requests I have issues with, I will setup a meeting to discuss what I think are the issues, and propose a better solution.
If they push it off as "This is what the customer (or some other decision maker) wanted", I ask if we know if they have considered the issues and if we can propose alternatives.
If they still want to move forward, I ask or work with them to discover more detail about how it will be developed, and make sure they fully understand and explicitly acknowledge each piece I think is insane, irresponsible, or otherwise.
It usually doesn't get to that with good managers or clients. If it does, and it happens regularly, it's time to fire them and move on.
It's a good question though.
After analyzing requests I have issues with, I will setup a meeting to discuss what I think are the issues, and propose a better solution.
If they push it off as "This is what the customer (or some other decision maker) wanted", I ask if we know if they have considered the issues and if we can propose alternatives.
If they still want to move forward, I ask or work with them to discover more detail about how it will be developed, and make sure they fully understand and explicitly acknowledge each piece I think is insane, irresponsible, or otherwise.
It usually doesn't get to that with good managers or clients. If it does, and it happens regularly, it's time to fire them and move on.