I have a similar life story. This field is toxic and hates developers that build useful software. Look at Max Howell and so many others like him.
Reading through the thread it's all about vibe and liking people. Most of the success stories are products that went nowhere and nobody used. But they got paid and had fun.
Women are not interested in being around toxic nerds with behavioral problems. Just to enter the job you have to survive hazing and humiliation and it only gets worse after.
I'm a guy and I'm disgusted, I couldn't imagine a woman succeeding in this field.
You will never get promoted and will never get hired without experience. It's rigged because management roles are reserved for narcissists and psychopaths.
If you are not a sycophant and a yes-man you will fail as a manager because you will be pushed out.
This whole industry is toxic, from hiring to constantly reinventing the wheel and to the daily work.
Reading through the thread it's all about vibe and liking people. Most of the success stories are products that went nowhere and nobody used. But they got paid and had fun.
Bullshit jobs for friendly people.