Cats as Horror Movie Villains(gwern.net)
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Cats as Horror Movie Villains
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> My guess is that both (cats and anime) hacked our visual network in a sense
It's not just cats. It's many furry mammals. But it's also most birds, which look completely different. And bees and bumblebees, even more different. To a lesser degree even some beetles and even turtles and frogs.
I would say a love of all of those is quote widespread, given how many of them are the main or major supporting characters of Youtube videos, movies, books and web novels and other publications.
It's not just cats. It's many furry mammals. But it's also most birds, which look completely different. And bees and bumblebees, even more different. To a lesser degree even some beetles and even turtles and frogs.
I would say a love of all of those is quote widespread, given how many of them are the main or major supporting characters of Youtube videos, movies, books and web novels and other publications.
To quote a TV show Community character Jeff Winger:
> What makes humans different from other animals? We're the only species on earth that observes Shark Week. Sharks don't even observe Shark Week, but we do. For the same reason I can pick up this pencil, tell you its name is Steve and go like this... [breaks pencil. Abed reacts in shock] Jeff Winger: and part of you dies just a little bit on the inside. Because people can connect with anything.
> What makes humans different from other animals? We're the only species on earth that observes Shark Week. Sharks don't even observe Shark Week, but we do. For the same reason I can pick up this pencil, tell you its name is Steve and go like this... [breaks pencil. Abed reacts in shock] Jeff Winger: and part of you dies just a little bit on the inside. Because people can connect with anything.
You can hypothesize something older too: that neoteny is about mammalian caretaking, not even human per se. I hypothesize if it's furry and small enough, with simple enough facial features, it will look cute.
Interesting point.
Yeah, maybe that instinct is so old, it dates back to human ancestors that still had fur...
Of course, this could also support OP's hypothesis: Maybe there was another set of visual receptors (triggering on cat ears, muzzles or stripes?) that evolved specifically to detect big cats, because they were dangerous predators to us - and we're "mis"using those visual receptors as well now.
I'm not completely convinced: There are other examples of evolved visual receptors against predators that are well-known I think - like spiders. And they do cause a response, but that response is overwhelmingly negative, sometimes so intensely so that it can drive people into a phobia. So it doesn't seem like a negative trigger can flip into a positive one so easily.
Then again, some people have pet spiders and think they are cute, so - who knows...
Edit: Also, maybe the scale plays a role? Spiders are tiny, even the dangerous ones - so a "detector" would have to be highly sensitive, triggering strong responses even for very small stimuli.
In contrast, big cats are big. The detector could afford to be a lot less sensitive, because the scale itself is a feature - so when watching a small housecat, the detector's response could be subdued enough to be "pleasant" in a "spicy food" or "horror movie" sense, especially if you combine it with the already positive response from the "cuteness" detector.
Not sure if this makes any sense, so sorry for rambling...
Yeah, maybe that instinct is so old, it dates back to human ancestors that still had fur...
Of course, this could also support OP's hypothesis: Maybe there was another set of visual receptors (triggering on cat ears, muzzles or stripes?) that evolved specifically to detect big cats, because they were dangerous predators to us - and we're "mis"using those visual receptors as well now.
I'm not completely convinced: There are other examples of evolved visual receptors against predators that are well-known I think - like spiders. And they do cause a response, but that response is overwhelmingly negative, sometimes so intensely so that it can drive people into a phobia. So it doesn't seem like a negative trigger can flip into a positive one so easily.
Then again, some people have pet spiders and think they are cute, so - who knows...
Edit: Also, maybe the scale plays a role? Spiders are tiny, even the dangerous ones - so a "detector" would have to be highly sensitive, triggering strong responses even for very small stimuli.
In contrast, big cats are big. The detector could afford to be a lot less sensitive, because the scale itself is a feature - so when watching a small housecat, the detector's response could be subdued enough to be "pleasant" in a "spicy food" or "horror movie" sense, especially if you combine it with the already positive response from the "cuteness" detector.
Not sure if this makes any sense, so sorry for rambling...
I think eye size is important. Most spiders aren't considered cute but jumping spiders are an exception for many people because they have big eyes, e.g.:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jumping_spider#/media/File:Pla...
And even the tachikoma from Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (robots inspired by jumping spiders) can be considered cute:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tachikoma
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jumping_spider#/media/File:Pla...
And even the tachikoma from Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (robots inspired by jumping spiders) can be considered cute:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tachikoma
> Not sure if this makes any sense, so sorry for rambling...
It does make sense but this is why evolutionary biology debates about specific features or organisms are so fruitless - a well known landmine within the field. You can come up with a “just so” story to explain just about any evolutionary path.
It does make sense but this is why evolutionary biology debates about specific features or organisms are so fruitless - a well known landmine within the field. You can come up with a “just so” story to explain just about any evolutionary path.
Not a biologist, but I'd think it depends what you then do with your stories.
If you treat it as a hypothesis to be tested, I don't see a problem - I think any way to come up with hypotheses is valid, as long as you're not repeating already investigated paths without new evidence.
On the other hand, treating a story as "true", only because it sounds somewhat compelling and logically consistent is a trap. This is how you get dogmatism and fringe stuff.
If you treat it as a hypothesis to be tested, I don't see a problem - I think any way to come up with hypotheses is valid, as long as you're not repeating already investigated paths without new evidence.
On the other hand, treating a story as "true", only because it sounds somewhat compelling and logically consistent is a trap. This is how you get dogmatism and fringe stuff.
> Not a biologist, but I'd think it depends what you then do with your stories.
You’re not an evolutionary biologist so you probably don’t even know what it means to formulate or test a hypothesis in that field (I have only a peripheral involvement in that field and even I wouldn’t care to hazard a guess because bioinformatics is complicated and full of deadly traps). What are you going to do with it beyond use it as a speculative just so story?
And hey, there’s nothing wrong with doing that on an internet forum, as long as you’re aware just how little predictive value there is. The closest equivalent I can think of is all those fantastical sea monsters and land masses cartographers used to draw in old maps instead of just saying “I don’t know.” As long as no explorer ever ventured there, they could come up with any story they wanted to.
You’re not an evolutionary biologist so you probably don’t even know what it means to formulate or test a hypothesis in that field (I have only a peripheral involvement in that field and even I wouldn’t care to hazard a guess because bioinformatics is complicated and full of deadly traps). What are you going to do with it beyond use it as a speculative just so story?
And hey, there’s nothing wrong with doing that on an internet forum, as long as you’re aware just how little predictive value there is. The closest equivalent I can think of is all those fantastical sea monsters and land masses cartographers used to draw in old maps instead of just saying “I don’t know.” As long as no explorer ever ventured there, they could come up with any story they wanted to.
Yeah, I'm not from the field, so I'm probably missing the cause of that negativity?
I can just try to explain what part of this I'd find valuable to research.
All that speculation - mine's, GP's, OP's - hinges on one assumption: That something like hereditary visual detectors in the brain exist.
I.e. that there are structures in the brain that have "weights" for large eyes, or cat features or spider features, etc etc - and that those weights are not learned by the individual, but are somehow "hardcoded" and passed down the germ line - which would allow them to be "learned" through evolution of the species.
As a programmer and with my hobbyist understanding of molecular biology, I'd see this as a pretty remarkable hypothesis. Right now, I don't see how this could possibly work: The brain and even the eyes of every person are different, so how could such a detector be "reconstructed" on a cellular level for an individual who has never seen a spider?
It would also raise interesting follow-up questions, both if it were confirmed or disproven:
If it were confirmed, does this mean there are encoded bits of visual information in the DNA? Could we decode them somehow and get "photographs" from prehistoric or even pre-human times? (Or well, less photographs and more something like the "eigenfaces" of face detectors) Are there more such hardwired circuits we didn't know yet? Are there similar circuits for other senses or for higher-level areas in the brain?
On the other hand, if it were disproven, we'd have to rethink situations where we take the existence of such hardwired stimuli almost for granted, like in sexual imagery.
The cat stuff itself has no predictive value, but it points into directions that could deliver it.
I can just try to explain what part of this I'd find valuable to research.
All that speculation - mine's, GP's, OP's - hinges on one assumption: That something like hereditary visual detectors in the brain exist.
I.e. that there are structures in the brain that have "weights" for large eyes, or cat features or spider features, etc etc - and that those weights are not learned by the individual, but are somehow "hardcoded" and passed down the germ line - which would allow them to be "learned" through evolution of the species.
As a programmer and with my hobbyist understanding of molecular biology, I'd see this as a pretty remarkable hypothesis. Right now, I don't see how this could possibly work: The brain and even the eyes of every person are different, so how could such a detector be "reconstructed" on a cellular level for an individual who has never seen a spider?
It would also raise interesting follow-up questions, both if it were confirmed or disproven:
If it were confirmed, does this mean there are encoded bits of visual information in the DNA? Could we decode them somehow and get "photographs" from prehistoric or even pre-human times? (Or well, less photographs and more something like the "eigenfaces" of face detectors) Are there more such hardwired circuits we didn't know yet? Are there similar circuits for other senses or for higher-level areas in the brain?
On the other hand, if it were disproven, we'd have to rethink situations where we take the existence of such hardwired stimuli almost for granted, like in sexual imagery.
The cat stuff itself has no predictive value, but it points into directions that could deliver it.
Here’s where it helps to have at least some background in biology: what you propose is not a radical hypothesis. In fact I’d be hard pressed to find a single neuroscientist who disagrees with that hypothesis except in its most nuanced details.
We have no idea how that information is transmitted from generation to generation but we have enough animal behavior research to know that many animals instinctually identify visual cues like predators pretty much from the moment they are born. We also have decent evidence that the inheritance may not be entirely genetic in origin, because nearly identical populations in different locales may have wildly different behaviors (like the animals in the Galapagos islands, who aren’t afraid of humans because they’ve had no predators).
The three main candidates for how this information is transmitted are: genetics, epigenetics, and embryonic development. The latter two fields are still in their infancy but that leaves more room for just so stories.
Always beware of anyone using evolutionary biology to make an argument about the development of species.
We have no idea how that information is transmitted from generation to generation but we have enough animal behavior research to know that many animals instinctually identify visual cues like predators pretty much from the moment they are born. We also have decent evidence that the inheritance may not be entirely genetic in origin, because nearly identical populations in different locales may have wildly different behaviors (like the animals in the Galapagos islands, who aren’t afraid of humans because they’ve had no predators).
The three main candidates for how this information is transmitted are: genetics, epigenetics, and embryonic development. The latter two fields are still in their infancy but that leaves more room for just so stories.
Always beware of anyone using evolutionary biology to make an argument about the development of species.
That sounds entirely reasonable and also extremely exciting. I didn't know there is so much research on that topic going on. Thank you for explaining that.
> Always beware of anyone using evolutionary biology to make an argument about the development of species.
From what I understand so far, I can just say that I dislike arguments of the form "feature X provides evolutionary advantage Y to the species, and that explains why the species evolved it".
In fact, it doesn't explain anything: Being able to shoot laser beams out of ones eyes would provide a large evolutionary advantage, but I still don't expect any future children of mine to spontaneously develop that ability - because there is no feasible way how the body could change to realize that ability, how that change would be transmitted from the parents or how it would even develop in the first place.
I think it could still be a useful shorthand if you already know that an aspect of the body is influenced by evolution, to explain the "direction" this feature took.
But I think I see what you mean, there is a risk of getting caught up in "it could have happened like this" speculation that is not grounded in any reality anymore.
> Always beware of anyone using evolutionary biology to make an argument about the development of species.
From what I understand so far, I can just say that I dislike arguments of the form "feature X provides evolutionary advantage Y to the species, and that explains why the species evolved it".
In fact, it doesn't explain anything: Being able to shoot laser beams out of ones eyes would provide a large evolutionary advantage, but I still don't expect any future children of mine to spontaneously develop that ability - because there is no feasible way how the body could change to realize that ability, how that change would be transmitted from the parents or how it would even develop in the first place.
I think it could still be a useful shorthand if you already know that an aspect of the body is influenced by evolution, to explain the "direction" this feature took.
But I think I see what you mean, there is a risk of getting caught up in "it could have happened like this" speculation that is not grounded in any reality anymore.
> But I think I see what you mean, there is a risk of getting caught up in "it could have happened like this" speculation that is not grounded in any reality anymore.
Almost but not quite. Evolutionary laser beams can be discounted out of hand but when we’re talking about a feature (phenotype) that already exists, it is somewhat grounded in reality because we have incontrovertible proof that it can evolve. That opens it up to wild speculation about convoluted evolutionary paths and, since 500+ millions of years of natural selection is nothing if not convoluted, very many of them sound very reasonable.
The added complication is that most of the evidence doesn’t exist anymore or is so degraded our current technology can’t recover the data. Figuring out the “direction” of evolution is nearly impossible because we have few intermediate genetic samples for organisms beyond ~500-1000kYa. The science of extracting DNA from recent fossils is also in its infancy.
Almost but not quite. Evolutionary laser beams can be discounted out of hand but when we’re talking about a feature (phenotype) that already exists, it is somewhat grounded in reality because we have incontrovertible proof that it can evolve. That opens it up to wild speculation about convoluted evolutionary paths and, since 500+ millions of years of natural selection is nothing if not convoluted, very many of them sound very reasonable.
The added complication is that most of the evidence doesn’t exist anymore or is so degraded our current technology can’t recover the data. Figuring out the “direction” of evolution is nearly impossible because we have few intermediate genetic samples for organisms beyond ~500-1000kYa. The science of extracting DNA from recent fossils is also in its infancy.
I think there is a general principle here:
- evolutionarily evolved feelings do not need to be logically consistent with the evolutionary benefit, as a long as they cause the evolutionarily beneficial behavior
An example that I observe is in guinea pigs. These are quintessential prey animals, and benefit from being under cover. If domestic guinea pigs don't have cover for a few hours, and are then given it, they run under the cover. Do they then breathe a sign of relief, and show signs that their emotion is one of renewed safety? No, they jump up and down, and squeak noisily in excitement! Apparently being under cover is cool.
- evolutionarily evolved feelings do not need to be logically consistent with the evolutionary benefit, as a long as they cause the evolutionarily beneficial behavior
An example that I observe is in guinea pigs. These are quintessential prey animals, and benefit from being under cover. If domestic guinea pigs don't have cover for a few hours, and are then given it, they run under the cover. Do they then breathe a sign of relief, and show signs that their emotion is one of renewed safety? No, they jump up and down, and squeak noisily in excitement! Apparently being under cover is cool.
I feel this article makes up an elaborate story when a much simpler explanation is available if you've lived with a cat: they are nice to have around.
If you read the article, it specifically talks about phenomena not observed with other animals, like dogs. I don't know if I agree that such phenomena certainly exists, but that doesn't mean it can't be a fun thought exercise to speculate about potential reasons for one.
Yeah, I too thought it was fun. I probably wouldn't write up a whole article on this idea, however.
An interesting hypothesis, but I don't see similar fascination with pet snakes.
While historically dangerous to people, <0.001% of snakes will prey upon humans. Large cats vs. primates is quite different.
...and, besides that, most of the "wow kitty" factor activates after small cats (not necessarily domestic cats). European wildcat: yes. Sand cat: yes. Pallas cat: absolutely. Ocelot: kitty! gimme gimme gimme. Lynx: maybe. Leopards, tigers, jaguars: beautiful, but dangerous, interesting to watch, but no oxytocine release.
So I am still not convinced.
So I am still not convinced.
You remember that super popular kid (+5 CHA) in middle or high school who wouldn't acknowledge your existence in a group, but would suddenly somehow make you feel like the center of the world when there was no one else available and they deigned to turn their attention to you? That's a cat. My theory, anyway.
Also, have to mention a relevant quote from the beginning of Dungeon Crawler Carl which features an awakened cat as one of it's protagonists:
"I get it cats are assholes, but you know why people like cats despite their assholeness? BECAUSE THEY CAN'T F*$#ING TALK! If cats could talk and they were all like you, they'd be extinct because we'd have killed them already!"
Also, have to mention a relevant quote from the beginning of Dungeon Crawler Carl which features an awakened cat as one of it's protagonists:
"I get it cats are assholes, but you know why people like cats despite their assholeness? BECAUSE THEY CAN'T F*$#ING TALK! If cats could talk and they were all like you, they'd be extinct because we'd have killed them already!"
> canid predators like hyenas
Hyenas are not canids; they are feliformia ("cat-like" carnivorans).
Hyenas are not canids; they are feliformia ("cat-like" carnivorans).
From Wikipedia:
> Although phylogenetically closer to felines and viverrids, hyenas are behaviourally and morphologically similar to canids in several elements due to convergent evolution: both hyenas and canines are non-arboreal
So for the purpose of this article, which states that because cats can climb trees are more of a danger to humans than dog/wolves, we can consider them on the dog side.
> Although phylogenetically closer to felines and viverrids, hyenas are behaviourally and morphologically similar to canids in several elements due to convergent evolution: both hyenas and canines are non-arboreal
So for the purpose of this article, which states that because cats can climb trees are more of a danger to humans than dog/wolves, we can consider them on the dog side.
> because cats can climb trees are more of a danger to humans than dog/wolves
That's on an individual level only though? Dogs/wolves are pack animals. I once stood in an empty eastern European city street and a pack of smallish/midsize street dogs came running straight towards me. For the first time I truly understood our ancestors fears[#]. If it had been just one or two dogs, especially with their at most middlish size I would not have cared. A whole pack is a very different ball game.
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[#] They just ran past me, fortunately.
That's on an individual level only though? Dogs/wolves are pack animals. I once stood in an empty eastern European city street and a pack of smallish/midsize street dogs came running straight towards me. For the first time I truly understood our ancestors fears[#]. If it had been just one or two dogs, especially with their at most middlish size I would not have cared. A whole pack is a very different ball game.
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[#] They just ran past me, fortunately.
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There is a pretty graphic/emotionally-charged image in the article (I understand it's part of nature), for those who might not have the strength to see something like that today.
I think your comment and the reply might leave some people even more curious, so I’ll just reproduce the image’s description so everyone can make a more informed choice.
> 2022 photo by wildlife photographer Shafeeq Mulla (23yo) in South Luangwa National Park, Zambia. The image shows Olimba, an old female leopard, carrying a deceased vervet monkey (with its infant clinging to it) to her lair to feed her cub. The cub reportedly killed the infant monkey while playing. Photo originally posted on Latest Sightings.
> 2022 photo by wildlife photographer Shafeeq Mulla (23yo) in South Luangwa National Park, Zambia. The image shows Olimba, an old female leopard, carrying a deceased vervet monkey (with its infant clinging to it) to her lair to feed her cub. The cub reportedly killed the infant monkey while playing. Photo originally posted on Latest Sightings.
My first thought before looking was "meh it's probably not that bad" but yeah, it's pretty sad. Alas, that is nature.
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The question is why some humans find house cats fascinating and abide them.
I hypothesize that parasites affecting the human nervous system (and possibly the feline one) are in the causal chain.
Toxoplasmosis is not necessarily the parasite at issue, but it could be; and it serves as proof of an organism that can be transmitted between humans and house cats, and also that is known to cause behavioral changes (albeit in nonhuman mammals).
I hypothesize that parasites affecting the human nervous system (and possibly the feline one) are in the causal chain.
Toxoplasmosis is not necessarily the parasite at issue, but it could be; and it serves as proof of an organism that can be transmitted between humans and house cats, and also that is known to cause behavioral changes (albeit in nonhuman mammals).
> The question is why
I've had one or more around most of my life. They're fun to play with and comedic. They genuinely like their people. They're simultaneously willful and cooperative. They have many habits and preferences, and each one is distinct. They're highly communicative if you understand their motives and language.
If you need to control rodents they are extremely effective and earn their keep. There is nothing more endearing than a proud cat eagerly bringing its catch home to share with its pride. Some people are freaked out by this, not realizing that there is no higher praise a cat can express, hunting on your behalf.
So many dimensions. If a cat likes you it actually likes you: there is no lie in them.
All that said, I'm glad house cats are small. :)
I've had one or more around most of my life. They're fun to play with and comedic. They genuinely like their people. They're simultaneously willful and cooperative. They have many habits and preferences, and each one is distinct. They're highly communicative if you understand their motives and language.
If you need to control rodents they are extremely effective and earn their keep. There is nothing more endearing than a proud cat eagerly bringing its catch home to share with its pride. Some people are freaked out by this, not realizing that there is no higher praise a cat can express, hunting on your behalf.
So many dimensions. If a cat likes you it actually likes you: there is no lie in them.
All that said, I'm glad house cats are small. :)
Cats all do the same things. But they have very clearly defined unique personalities, with big variations in intelligence and other qualities.
Also, relaxing. Having a dependent of any kind sleeping soundly close to you implies safety and reassurance in a very primal and satisfying way.
And cats sleep far more than humans do. Even when they're not active they're nice to have around.
I'm not convinced by the "tamed predator" hypothesis. I think if it were true we'd consider them exciting but stressful - like crime fiction.
Clearly we don't. No one sleeps next to a violent crime novel for relaxation.
In fact cat owners often get cognitive dissonance when Furry McPurrFace goes out and eviscerates a bird for breakfast. We feel sorry for the bird, but we don't seriously think "That could have been me. Or one of the kids."
Also, relaxing. Having a dependent of any kind sleeping soundly close to you implies safety and reassurance in a very primal and satisfying way.
And cats sleep far more than humans do. Even when they're not active they're nice to have around.
I'm not convinced by the "tamed predator" hypothesis. I think if it were true we'd consider them exciting but stressful - like crime fiction.
Clearly we don't. No one sleeps next to a violent crime novel for relaxation.
In fact cat owners often get cognitive dissonance when Furry McPurrFace goes out and eviscerates a bird for breakfast. We feel sorry for the bird, but we don't seriously think "That could have been me. Or one of the kids."
> and eviscerates a bird
And there we have what really happened to the dinosaurs.
And there we have what really happened to the dinosaurs.
A friend once said that, if we suddenly shrank to six inches high, our dog would still listen to our orders, but our cat would try to kill us.
Occasionally The Cat would look at me with those "I wish you were smaller" eyes.
You don't have to get that complicated to look for the reason. It's the purring. I am just one data point and you'd need to find others, but I find cats that purr loudly much more appealing than cats whose purring is so quiet that it's hard to hear. I believe if you were to survey other people who keep cats as pets, you'd find most would agree with that.
When I was a kid, my family got a kitten and a puppy at the same time. There were no other domestic animals around, so the two had only each other for socialization. The dog apparently observed how much attention the cat got when it purred, so it developed a habit of making a strange guttural noise when it was petted. We figured it was trying to purr.
Gwern gives his opinion (I'm inclined to agree but I really love the idea that it could be the reason!)
"The Toxoplasma literature is dogged by small effect sizes and associated pathologies like p-hacking, extensive confounding (in addition to the obvious reverse causation), poor replication (every study seemingly finding a Toxo correlation in something else), and lack of any clear mechanism for how Toxo could be doing anything in a primate species so evolutionarily distant from its rodent target. So, as entertaining as it would be if cat-lovers were being brainwashed by a mouse parasite futilely attempting to get them eaten by their pet cat, I doubt that any effect exists at all—much less that it is the explanation."
"The Toxoplasma literature is dogged by small effect sizes and associated pathologies like p-hacking, extensive confounding (in addition to the obvious reverse causation), poor replication (every study seemingly finding a Toxo correlation in something else), and lack of any clear mechanism for how Toxo could be doing anything in a primate species so evolutionarily distant from its rodent target. So, as entertaining as it would be if cat-lovers were being brainwashed by a mouse parasite futilely attempting to get them eaten by their pet cat, I doubt that any effect exists at all—much less that it is the explanation."
And in the article “They were…continually caressing the cats, and holding them up for the admiration of their companions on shore.”
the admiration of the companions on shore - that is some particularly quick acting distance obliterating parasites
the admiration of the companions on shore - that is some particularly quick acting distance obliterating parasites
> I hypothesize that parasites affecting the human nervous system (…) Toxoplasmosis
Yeah yeah, I read that same article fifteen years ago. I don’t buy it.
For one, there are many other symptoms besides behavioural changes, so we’d have way more known cases of infections. For another, those parasites aren’t transmissible over the internet and thus do not explain the whole of human fascination with cats.
It’s a much more plausible explanation that cats are interesting and reliable companions, with distinct personalities and preferences.
Yeah yeah, I read that same article fifteen years ago. I don’t buy it.
For one, there are many other symptoms besides behavioural changes, so we’d have way more known cases of infections. For another, those parasites aren’t transmissible over the internet and thus do not explain the whole of human fascination with cats.
It’s a much more plausible explanation that cats are interesting and reliable companions, with distinct personalities and preferences.
My cat sleeps in the same bed as me and greets me when I wake up
This strikes me as a too simplistic view of neoteny.
You could have a look at Anime or Pixar or cartoon characters and ask the same questions. They also objectively don't look like kids if you make a photo comparison side-by-side (at least in certain styles). Their features are so exaggerated they strictly speaking don't even look human.
Nevertheless, they can cause strong reactions and emotions in viewers in a similar way OP here described for cats.
My guess is that both (cats and anime) hacked our visual network in a sense: They took some visual features that evoke "cuteness" in humans and which likely evolved for the purpose of driving us to protect our kids - and dialled them up to 11 and combined them with not child-like features to evoke a response that's even more intense than the one we have for kids.
So in a sense, they look more like kids than actual kids do.