Reputational consequences of victim signaling: Victimhood decreases status(sciencedirect.com)
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Reputational consequences of victim signaling: Victimhood decreases status
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Sure does. And it indicates that you're an easy mark.
I found when I went through school, and basically 'in person social network', with trolls, bullies, and the like, that a harsh and swift response is the opposite of victimhood.
Sure, I got kicked out for a few days. But I got a rep that if you bully me, you're going to get a black eye(s) and a broken nose. Now I didn't bully others, but I would defend myself and go all out on someone attacking me. I made sure every one of them regretted it.
Obviously, I dont use that physicality these days, as its unwarranted. But verbally, I will defend myself and "talk back". If you try to throw me under the bus, I'm taking you with me. But I dont throw others under.
Basically its the game theory of tit-for-tat. Works pretty well.
I found when I went through school, and basically 'in person social network', with trolls, bullies, and the like, that a harsh and swift response is the opposite of victimhood.
Sure, I got kicked out for a few days. But I got a rep that if you bully me, you're going to get a black eye(s) and a broken nose. Now I didn't bully others, but I would defend myself and go all out on someone attacking me. I made sure every one of them regretted it.
Obviously, I dont use that physicality these days, as its unwarranted. But verbally, I will defend myself and "talk back". If you try to throw me under the bus, I'm taking you with me. But I dont throw others under.
Basically its the game theory of tit-for-tat. Works pretty well.
I have had multiple people over time just flat out tell me that they are gullible. I was shocked. I advised them never to admit that to anyone else or they will be a more likely target for abuse. They didn't understand why. I was again shocked but less this time.
Admitting you are gullible is a good signal in that you are not in the worst cohort of it.
idk gullible people are potentially unreliable, which plays a role in social desirability
An unfortunate property of fields without time translation symmetry.