More than teaching I discuss various aspects of life with my elder kid.
Introspection, philosophies, why we do what we do, what we struggle to cope with, death, governments, wealth, consumerism, corruption, business, summary of books I read, movie details.
There is no teaching or schedule. It is a casual talk whenever he gets curious about something. So when he questions or wants to know more the discussion continues.
And it makes me happy when he is able to recollect or relate something discussed in a different event.
Startups have their own way of creating burn out and since it takes a toll on finances as well, the impact is much higher. It is not all fun and motivation. Also there are non tech problems one need to solve in a startup.
IMO, avoiding burnout might not be a best motivator for starting up. Maybe moving to a startup might help you decide along with reducing zoom calls hopefully :). Also it gives time to think about what is that you want to create.
Another option is to talk to friends who started up, to understand the practical challenges.
My suggestion, take some time and decide. It is more about making an informed decision. And when we are lost, sometimes we take decisions more on hope.
Have two kids. They have been my antidote so far. There are tough moments, additional responsibility and finance one needs to account for. But overall I feel grateful I have them.
Also I don't have a purpose based on parenting. I am just happy to be around them and try to be a good parent. It is nice to share things that I wish I had known from young age. Things that help you deal with life but are never taught.
Also I feel other relationships do not compensate the love we give and get from our children. It is very unique.
All being said I think it is good to be open minded about expectations. Children are unique and the relationship may flourish or take a sour turn depending on circumstances.
On whether one decides to have kids or not, I think there are no wrong decisions here.
If you have already decided, then best not to discuss this. Just do it. New Inputs might add to the confusion.
My 2 cents,
If you are still contemplating, think about how you might feel, say after a week or a month. Because the state of mind then would be different. The relief of leaving a job one does not like is temporary and then the anxiety of future takes over, generally. Now with the current situation, it can add to the stress. Side projects enthusiasm is good but again anxiety about future can bring it down.
If it is possible to push taking the decision, talking to your manager, having clear work timings / notifications might help. Also since you have decided to move on anyway, maybe it is an opportunity to be assertive in asking for some changes you might want.
Look for what else you would want to do, take a look at other openings, talk to friends all these can add some objectivity to the decision and their consequence.
While the immediate pain has to be addressed, looking for a long term solution helps one make better decisions.
Yes, Entrepreneurship is lonely. Have felt the same.
In this online world sharing knowledge is so much easier. Blogging, Professional forums can be used to share knowledge. It is baby steps but eventually can lead to teaching, workshops which could be fulfilling.
Helping, mentoring budding Entrepreneurs is one area. They would be glad to use all the wisdom.
Spending time with family. Connecting with old friends do help. I found, reaching out just to say hello opens the door.
Also meeting people with similar hobby or interests also helps. People are glad to share their knowledge.
I think when we are stuck, looking at avenues where we can give provides us the opportunity to connect with like minded people.
Not sure if HN allows one to post their professional offering. If not, would be happy to delete this comment.
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I think you might want to look at assertiveness rather than aggressiveness. Being calm when things go bad is an amazing trait to have. Many get carried away and being aggressive does not help. It seems to win an argument but that's about it. Hollow points. Whenever I have dealt aggressiveness with aggressiveness, I felt bad later.
Just like you speak up uncomfortable truths in normal situations, being assertive during tough situations helps. Then the assertive person becomes the voice of reason, instead of raising the voice, they are calm, empathise and talk objectively. The argument may be lost if the other person is unreasonable. But people will know whom to support. Not easy to start with but over time it becomes the default state.
Yes, it has happened to me. For some reason, I totally lost interest and people who knew me were surprised I moved away from technology.
This phase is generally difficult to deal with. Somehow we have a strong identity with our career and leaving that feels bad for whatever reason. And when people are surprised, it almost makes you feel guilty. But when I got over that I realised if we take these temporary emotions out of equation it makes sense to move on and start over. Our analytical mind would always come handy in whatever we do.
In my case what helped me was while I was clear I lost interest in technology I had to do some soul searching to find out on what I wanted to do instead. This took some time for me to figure out. And some more time to figure out on how to monetise it. But the effort is worth it.
But I think it would be difficult for anybody to tell you what direction you need to take. It depends on what actually you want to do.It could be managing, consulting on domain, freelancing, taking up a different route, anything else you always liked but were not thinking as a career choice.It also depends on the compromises you can make.
Some deep introspection helps. Maybe this phase goes away as well. Give it sometime and watch what you think about often. That might give a clue. If it is a new journey, talk to people who have done that, chart out a plan before taking a plunge. All the best.
Introspection, philosophies, why we do what we do, what we struggle to cope with, death, governments, wealth, consumerism, corruption, business, summary of books I read, movie details.
There is no teaching or schedule. It is a casual talk whenever he gets curious about something. So when he questions or wants to know more the discussion continues.
And it makes me happy when he is able to recollect or relate something discussed in a different event.