snailkite · HackerTrans

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I find that there’s too much emphasis on “finding your bliss.” My ‘purpose’ is to negate other’s control over me. Wealth is independence, so my jobs are income (not status) generators. At the beginning of my career I consistently asked for higher pay & left if refused. Over time, the greater my wealth, the greater my ability to say “no,” and conversely the better employers have treated me. I’m offered promotions, stock options, etc without asking for them and I basically do what I want and get paid well for it. So my negative purpose, avoiding being controlled, has worked out for me.

snailkite

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Great series. Have you also read the Locked Tomb series by Tamsyn Muir?

snailkite

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As you age it becomes easier to recognize those things that motivate you. For me it was to have accumulated enough wealth that I would not be dependent on the whims of an employer or boss. It sometimes meant that I had to do things that—at the time—I disliked. Sometimes it meant changing careers, or outlasting a boss I detested. But once I gained economic independence I found that I could push back hard against my employers/bosses when they tried to give me an “or else” demand, and they always folded. Until I retire I’ll be motivated by my ability to call my own shots.

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