Yea, I get upset at my mom who whines about being lonely. She was married for 25 and then 35 years. So from my POV she got 60yrs of companionship. Mean while I've had 4. So when I can get another 56yr of companionship then I'll start not being upset at her whining.
Obviously I feel sympathy for her, I'm not as rotten as my previous paragraph sounded. But I can't help but think "Now you know what it's been like for me nearly my entire life"
I'm going to call BS. Sure, being single is better than being in a bad relationship. But, like the majority of music, movies, novels have to do with romantic relationships. Pretty much all of psychology tells us for most people relationship is what makes life worth living. Maybe you're an exception but for most of us it's what we crave.
i'm in my mid 50s. Since 18 I've had about 4 years of someone in my life. The other 30+ years there's been no one. For almost that entire time I was told "it will happen". Well it didn't. It's hard to stay hopeful at this point. Things I wanted (my own kids) are close to zero chance at this point.
I wanted to grow old with someone. Too late. I'm already old. I used to think you meet someone relatively attractive in your 20s, maybe 30s and you grow old and ugly together but your familiarity with each other and your shared memories of younger times keeps it going. Well, that's too late too. Looking on the dating sites it's all grannies and grandpas
Never. Why is that so hard to believe? In college I was shy. At work, every job I've had has been a geek job, next to no women at work. Friends are similar so no one around to bring women to activities.
> Even the loneliest people I know have mustered up some kind of tension with someone, even if they were never able to act on it.