duelingjello

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Women make boys into women. Men need to grow a pair, throw away some conventions, gain nuanced judgement by learning from thousands of interactions. There’s no substitute for experience. Build a fun life and fun people will seek out that wavelength; build a boring life and similar will surround you as well. Do it all while you’re still young and healthy because doors will gradually close.

duelingjello

7 ปีที่แล้วdiscuss

Lifestyle design and the wider world is stereotypically antithetical to most engineers. If you’re not one of those, and even if you are, you should often deflect the “so what do you do? (how much do you make?)” question with a humorous contradictory “title.”

I know a guy who makes $350k and has a security clearance but wears white socks, is overweight, eats with his mouth open and is super awkward. That’s not a “catch,” in women’s eyes, unless he owns it without the usual creepy awkwardness, shame and/or insecurities.

Sense of humor, directness, interests outside tech, goals in life, socioemotional self-awareness and demonstrated relentlessly-resourceful go-getterness is what makes women run. And don’t be so damn predictable.

PS: skip Tinder unless you’re a 19-year-old sports player or an 20-/30-something model.

duelingjello

7 ปีที่แล้วdiscuss

Yes. Do the best you can. Especially if they use something like paper_trail on Rails or other soft deletes. Maybe ask to the vendor to search/purge databases/files and overwrite free disk space manually too.

For certain types of data and with experise, it might be wise to run your own servers (colo) and encrypt the drives. After surviving to a certain scale, you'll want to save money by running hybrid bare metal+cloud anyhow. Then, you'd have control to nuke your servers (DBAN), local snapshots and encrypted backups. Hybrid infrastructure should allow pinning systems to prevent migrating to or sending snapshots to third-parties.

duelingjello

7 ปีที่แล้วdiscuss

- Write, sign and notarize an agreement that the code is either duplicated or transferred to you.

- Decide who gets the data: users, you, someone.

- Sanitize servers and services by trying to overwrite data with junk values before canceling.

- Cancel monthly services and free services.

- If it was good, don't let the team relationship go to waste. Talk with whoever's left / worked-with previously about doing something else.

---- Then and only then ----

- Do "consultingish" work or solve a problem you have to find a problem worth solving.

- Sell something good people want before you invest too much time/money/mental health building something too much.

- Keep it real: building "your amazing idea" without a feedback loop gathering critical data from paying/potential customers is #fail.

- Someone though will have to step-up to be the sales/buzz builder or one will need to be found (hopefully, someone you've known for some time or a friend-of-a-friend). No useless "idea guys" allowed.

- Sales/buzz person or someone will need to be the captain of the ship ultimately in-charge of everything.

- Iterate fast, executing based on feedback and sales numbers. Prefer the best one you can get into if you can. (YC, hihi.;)

- Everyone at the beginning gets equal equity vested over 3-5 years. First employees should get ~1% equity, more if it's an employee-owned co-op.

- Don't pray for funding, sales/profit cures all.

- Raise funding only if you could definitely grow faster with more money.

- Skip accelerators unless you need a network and/or are relatively inexperienced.

- When you get big enough, incorporate (California or Delaware C-corp). If it's s consultancy, LLP or LLC. https://clerky.com

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