This might help https://youtu.be/6KGYCU_INVI?si=1Ds8Rez8vNbZAyV5, it has more to do with your perception, expectations, and the story you tell yourself rather than an actual state of “loneliness”.
You are going through a normal phase of growth, and need to be able to sit with discomfort and question it. You will likely find yourself cherishing these moments when you are older.
It’s pretty easy to change jobs on an H-1B if you are high skill. I love hearing folks, who aren’t on an H-1B, tell me things like this. Or that I’m paid less when I’m paid more.
I know these abuses happen, no system is perfect. But I feel the bias in the US against H-1Bs from random citizens not from employers. And the government today has quite strong bias against immigrants.
Let us note that the sharp uptick in Haidt's graphs occurred the year that the DSM-5 was released, 2013, which had several major changes around depressive and anxiety disorders and removed multi-axial assessment. I was disappointed to not see any mention of this.
I find Dr. Gabor Maté's work much more interesting in explaining the decrease of mental health in society and understanding where that comes from.
Idk my experience is much different. On the weekend, I would have a list of games I really wanted to play. Boot one up, play for a few minutes, feel like I should be playing a different one, switch and repeat.
Or I would have hobbies or activities I would want to do. But would end up in the same cycle.
Then at the end of my weekend I would feel down because I spent the entire past two days constantly task switching with zero enjoyment.
But on Adderall I am able to sit down and enjoy the first game / hobby I pick.
I agree with your general message and positivity but it is worth mentioning that Adderall, and stimulants, work differently in an ADHD brain vs. a neurotypical brain. The biggest effect I notice is not focus in a pill but instead a calming effect on the brain.
This has a profound effect on things not related to focus like background anxiety, mild depression, impulsivity, managing relationships etc.
Nothing to fear, if you do have it your brain has always been this way so in a sense nothing has changed. That said a diagnosis can bring a lot of clarity, understanding, and help you form strategies to do better.
If you seek evaluation, seek it from someone with a lot of experience with Adult ADHD. If you get a diagnosis, make sure you work with a doctor who starts you at the lowest dose and slowly ups it as needed.
How to ADHD is a great YouTube channel, if you are curious.
Now, any system I’ve seen designed around exactly once is complete garbage.