This is how I fixed my insomnia. I changed three things:
1. Before going to bed I meditate (I usually listen to the app from Sam Harris)
2. No more caffeine after 11 in the morning
3. Strict "bed hygiene", meaning: when I go to bed I immediately switch off the lights and sleep. I do nothing else. Also, I try to always sleep around the same time, even on weekends.
I believe 3) has made the biggest difference. I used to read and even sometimes watch movies in bed. I miss reading in bed but since I stopped doing that and only focus on sleeping I have never had problems to fall asleep anymore, despite going through some stressful times.
I do sometimes still wake up during the night, but since I sleep well before I can handle those days pretty well. My life has changed a lot for the better, one of the best things I have done recently
In the past, I could always rely on the fact that I was able to sleep well the night following a bad night. After I couldn't sleep two nights in a row I started to get very worried.
I changed three things:
1. Before going to bed I meditate (I usually listen to the app from Sam Harris)
2. No more caffeine after 11 am
3. 100% of what is called in books "bed hygiene", meaning: when I go to bed I immediately switch off the lights and sleep. I do nothing else. Also, I try to always sleep around the same time, even on weekends.
I believe 3) has been the biggest change. I used to read and even sometimes watch Netflix in bed. I miss reading in bed but since I stopped doing that and only focus on sleeping I have never had problems to fall asleep anymore, despite going through some stressful times.
I do sometimes still wake up early, but since I sleep well before I can handle those days pretty well. My life has changed a lot for the better, one of the best things I have done recently
How do I go from general software developer to domain specialist if I don't have domain knowledge in the first place (or want to get out of the domain I'm working in)?
I suspect that people who are in a great niche got there by accident and that luck is a much bigger part than most want to admit.
I don't think a deliberate attempt to move into a great position will work.
Following the entrepreneurial dream and quitting too early or not pursuing employment opportunities because I thought I should be going on my own. Lack of consistency in my career, jumping around way too often. Now in my mid-career, I'm paying the price, being stuck with the feeling that I have driven my career into a dead-end
Always been a generalist. Tried many times to do startups and saas products. It never got me anywhere. Between my projects, I worked as a freelancer, while living in many different countries. I took anything I could get. Earned enough money, then tried again. I have broad work experience, but nothing deep. Started a family late in life (with 44). Now I feel my career is a dead-end. Plus I seem to have lost my ability to put up with all that technological mess and the ever-new-shiny-thing.
I'm in a real slump. It's been a long time that I slept well.
Last year I created an online course. It's self-hosted and on Udemy. Compared to the time I have invested it generates peanuts, but I enjoyed the process of teaching.
So this is my plan out of the slump: teaching and corporate training. I figure that once I have created sufficient products, I may be able to make a living. And I'm trying to get my foot into corporate training. Though I'm an introvert, I do enjoy a lot helping others to learn and acquire skills.
I'm working on my public speaking abilities as well. Last year I gave a talk at a conference. I was nervous as hell, but at least some seem to have enjoyed my talk.
It's a long hard way, but I feel it's the only viable for me.
btw - if anyone here wants to chat, get in touch, email in profile.
To anyone who has become a parent recently and wondering what you have done to your life: I feel your pain.
After my daughter was born I had dark moments. Boy, was I naive about having kids. It was by far the most exhausting task I ever had to do. Especially the first year was tough. Relationship with mother, work, self-confidence, everything went down.
But let me tell you this: it gets better!
My daughter is turning three and she has grown into something splendid.
I didn't expect this, but I can honestly say that she is giving me as much as I give her. She has her own personality and it is a lot of fun to get to know her better every day.
I still miss my old life, a lot, but now I get to have fun with this creature and can learn from her every day something.
1. Before going to bed I meditate (I usually listen to the app from Sam Harris)
2. No more caffeine after 11 in the morning
3. Strict "bed hygiene", meaning: when I go to bed I immediately switch off the lights and sleep. I do nothing else. Also, I try to always sleep around the same time, even on weekends.
I believe 3) has made the biggest difference. I used to read and even sometimes watch movies in bed. I miss reading in bed but since I stopped doing that and only focus on sleeping I have never had problems to fall asleep anymore, despite going through some stressful times.
I do sometimes still wake up during the night, but since I sleep well before I can handle those days pretty well. My life has changed a lot for the better, one of the best things I have done recently