Whenever I post ANYTHING online, even a private contribution on a private forum, I assume everyone in the world can or will eventually be able to read it.
I don't know if all the blame goes to postgres or not, but a unit test in Rails is typically what others would call an integration test and Rails' architecture is more to blame than SQL. If someone chooses to use postgres in their application, don't be surprised when you see code that uses postgres. Wanting to force others to make applications that work with the lowest-common denominator of SQL could make one appear naive, and that you might not have ever faced the same problems others developers have faced.
I stopped drinking alcohol due to the possible cancer link seeming much greater than aspartame's link to cancer. It seems strange that the studies are much more conclusive on alcohol's role with cancer than aspartame, but the concerns are much higher for aspartame than alcohol. Part of me wonders why this is. One possible reason I see is that people's trust in the studies about aspartame are much lower than their trust in the studies about alcohol.
There are also probably very personal and biological variables involved too that the post doesn't mention. I stare into monitors and phones all day long. Every light in the house is full-blown LED. I can't help but fall asleep at 20:00 in an led lit room watching led TVs, while my led phone drops onto the floor after I've fallen asleep. I've been in an extreme LED environment for over a decade and never have problems waking up at 6:30 and falling asleep in bed at 22:00. I totally agree with concern raised by the article, but I also think it lacks the whole picture of someone's lifestyle. People have struggled with sleep issues well before LEDs.
This is why I never fork a repo from github. I checkout my own branch (like git is supposed to be) and create a repo on github and most importantly, another server.
It's not good that you are uncomfortable when it asks you to talk about it with its preferred pronouns. It's 2023, it's about time you try to do what it ask you to do. When it tells you its preferred pronouns, try as hard as you can to follow it.
I tried self hosting it, but could never log in. I would even follow the password reset emails that tell me the password was changed, but then login never worked. I wish I could have gotten it to work, but ended up giving up on it.