My wife was/is both an RN and a DNP in NYC during the entirety of the pandemic. I'm an Iraq infantry veteran. Our experiences are remarkably similar and there are major trends as to why there is unsustainable turnover.
1. Everyone pays lip service. People stand at airports and say thank you for your service the same way they open their windows at 7PM and start clapping and cheering during shift turnover. Sometimes they'll say they know people who are veterans or 'frontline healthcare workers' as a sign of solidarity
2. Nobody actually wants to hear what you went through. Hearing people die or knowing people are about to die in sometimes painful, unfortunate ways is too raw for people to try to seek out and understand, despite the fact that for a significant portion of the population that's how we're going to go out, in a hospital with all sorts of drugs pumped into our system
3. There's a constant barrage of emotional/mental harm. Believe it or not, you don't magically 'harden up' immediately. Absorbing/witnessing drastic outcomes gets easier, but the burden doesn't get lighter. This isn't to mention physical harm. People do all sorts of things out of desperation and frustration.
4. The systems that manage you are byzantine if not kafkaesque. You're never sure how the decisions are made, yet you're the one that will be paying the most for it. You know deep down that you're just a number on a spreadsheet, and the only reason that keeps you going is internal motivation to do what you think is right, so you push on
5. The people who can help rarely think about you. Very few politicians will mention your name or your union that is doing its best to get some kind of safe nurse:patient ratios or even get the hospital to pay for your scrubs that they mandate. Very few billionaires have mentioned healthcare workers or veterans at all. As a whole, until someone has an emergency that threatens their physical or financial status, healthcare and security is treated as a black box with unreal expectations and extra sensitivity to deviations from said expectations, despite a complete lack of introspection and information on how those expectations came to be
I don't know what the solution is. In healthcare, every system is so deeply connected to the rest that destroying one or even refactoring takes down everything else, and we need it to stay online. The same applies to the continuation of geopolitics by other means. You can give every IC the best EMR system, the best rifle and radio, the best monitor/laptop/keyboard, but it's all for nothing if the system as a whole is a dumpster fire. Her frustration is palpable every time she finishes a rough shift (probably 2 out of 3), and the best I can do is lend my ear and pour a glass of wine.
That being said, I am grateful that she is continuing on the path. Our shared experiences have brought us closer than ever.
1. Everyone pays lip service. People stand at airports and say thank you for your service the same way they open their windows at 7PM and start clapping and cheering during shift turnover. Sometimes they'll say they know people who are veterans or 'frontline healthcare workers' as a sign of solidarity
2. Nobody actually wants to hear what you went through. Hearing people die or knowing people are about to die in sometimes painful, unfortunate ways is too raw for people to try to seek out and understand, despite the fact that for a significant portion of the population that's how we're going to go out, in a hospital with all sorts of drugs pumped into our system
3. There's a constant barrage of emotional/mental harm. Believe it or not, you don't magically 'harden up' immediately. Absorbing/witnessing drastic outcomes gets easier, but the burden doesn't get lighter. This isn't to mention physical harm. People do all sorts of things out of desperation and frustration.
4. The systems that manage you are byzantine if not kafkaesque. You're never sure how the decisions are made, yet you're the one that will be paying the most for it. You know deep down that you're just a number on a spreadsheet, and the only reason that keeps you going is internal motivation to do what you think is right, so you push on
5. The people who can help rarely think about you. Very few politicians will mention your name or your union that is doing its best to get some kind of safe nurse:patient ratios or even get the hospital to pay for your scrubs that they mandate. Very few billionaires have mentioned healthcare workers or veterans at all. As a whole, until someone has an emergency that threatens their physical or financial status, healthcare and security is treated as a black box with unreal expectations and extra sensitivity to deviations from said expectations, despite a complete lack of introspection and information on how those expectations came to be
I don't know what the solution is. In healthcare, every system is so deeply connected to the rest that destroying one or even refactoring takes down everything else, and we need it to stay online. The same applies to the continuation of geopolitics by other means. You can give every IC the best EMR system, the best rifle and radio, the best monitor/laptop/keyboard, but it's all for nothing if the system as a whole is a dumpster fire. Her frustration is palpable every time she finishes a rough shift (probably 2 out of 3), and the best I can do is lend my ear and pour a glass of wine.
That being said, I am grateful that she is continuing on the path. Our shared experiences have brought us closer than ever.