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nadavr
·7 ปีที่แล้ว·discuss
The direct ask is "would you be willing to", if that's what you want to know. If the goal is to make sure your food isn't eaten, then "stop!" might work better. If the goal is better understanding of the people around you, and a connection to what's happening for them, then the ask is about what they want, and what they'd be willing to do.
nadavr
·7 ปีที่แล้ว·discuss
If your goal is to passive aggressively manipulate others, then NVC will work just as well as anything else. If your goal is connected communication, NVC works very well too.
nadavr
·7 ปีที่แล้ว·discuss
Fascinating, and I totally hear that. For me, the name is part of what drew me to it in the first place -- the framing that there is a "violence" even in the normal day to day interactions we are all used to was a bit of an "aha!" moment for me that provided hope for something better.