Another salient difference (and, for me, a deal-breaker): PostGraphile exposes user-defined functions in the GraphQL API, making it possible to define application logic and build a complete service without recourse to any other server-side technology.
I'd say it's time for you to reassess what you want from life. What look like symptoms are sometimes signals from our subconscious. At 33, you've a chance to change course. Try, for example, the exercises in the book What Color is Your Parachute.