I was worried a bunch about this as my kids got into the sporting ages. But I've been rally pleasantly surprised. Maybe it's our particular town (Boston adjacent), but all the parents seem have things in perspective. Well, maybe not _all_ but by far the majority.
fwiw, I know it's the right thing to run tests from a different computer. But it's more annoying. And I hereby tell you that 90% of the time it probably doesn't matter.
Definitely times it isn't true. But if you're not doing a load test bc it's a pita, do it locally. Most of the time I've wanted to do this, all the action is inside the app. Just be careful to acknowledge that there could be limitations / surprises.
Be transparent with your boss about how it's affecting you, while also being sensitive that a lot of people are in a similar boat. The journey to liquidity is long. There will be more grants in the future.
We had a small down one, eventually company actually did a massive equity re-do for everyone giving us an option for a different strike and longer exercise window. It took 18 months from the "crisis" though.
Eventually the board realizes that they need the employees motivated.
All those things that were so great and wonderful at bigcorp... pretty often turns out they fixed issues that are a decade old and the state of the world has often made them irrelevant. Certainly at startup scale.