> [Genghis Khan] was born to a mother who had been kidnapped and [raped] by his father, a practice in which Genghis Khan himself would later engage.
> He and his men would kill the heads of other clans then force the survivors to join their united “super-clan.”
> Each time he conquered a new clan or people, Genghis Khan would [rape] the women, either to himself or to his head chiefs. This is how he acquired enough wives to father the number of sons necessary to provide the DNA lineage which we know today.
Standard infanticide practice for many primate species. Humans just scale better.
> Yet when it comes to the DNA of Genghis Khan and his descendants, we are fascinated at the possibilities and still seek the “bragging rights” of being a part of his incredible family legacy.
Being descended from a mass rapist isn't something to brag about. And let's not gloss over what those women went through.
"I would also like to see words other than "toxic" being used to describe masculinity."
"The Fantastic Masculinity of Newt Scamander" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4kuR1gyOeQ is a pop culture analysis of the mild-mannered leading man of the Happy Potter prequel movies.
If your weekly tennis partner started canceling on you at the last minute, you'd get annoyed too.
The difference is sex is often intrinsic to the relationship. When someone wants it a lot less or more or different than before then the terms of the relationship unexpectedly become worse for at least one person. That can feel like bad faith even if it wasn't.
I'll never forget the girlfriend who when I showed emotional vulnerability grabbed that knife and twisted it in the wound, telling me to man up. More painful than the immediate situation was the realization that I couldn't rely on her, that she was a fairweather girlfriend. Yes I broke up with her and yes I talked to a therapist about it. Never had a guy say anything like that to me. Other girlfriends have been there for me and were very supportive.
Maybe some parts of toxic masculinity are perpetuated more by women and the media than other men.
It's like drawing conclusions about human society based on just watching prison inmates interact.