wrmanis · HackerTrans

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It's fairly linear for the same kind of truss, like say a 15 foot span to a 20 foot span - just think bigger triangle. Past a certain point, in order to support the shear/wind/snow loads across a span requires increasingly higher grades and width of lumber and you start getting into non-linear territory. Pole barns are an extremely common order for truss plants, and that size should be pretty standard. In single family houses, though, you start getting into "features" pretty quick which affect the price quite a bit, think ceiling trays, HVAC platforms and so on, so you're pretty quickly into some nonlinear territory there as well.

wrmanis

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I know this is a little buried - but I own a truss manufacturing operation and I'd totally recommend finding one to talk to. If you can find drawings, or sometimes even just sketch out a floorplan (we frequently build out barns or other simple structures based on literal napkin drawings) we'll give you a layout of all the trusses, joists and beams that you could take and just stick frame it yourself based off. Naturally we're here to sell trusses, but I think most plants like us are always down to help out folks in the community if we've got the time.

wrmanis

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In my case it's an issue of relative income - I have a large group of friends that have been together for more than a decade and our income levels have dramatically diverged. We're very comfortable with each other but there's an undercurrent of social implication whenever we go out to somewhere on the nicer side, or somewhere that's a little out of their normal routine.

Like several other commenters in this thread, I have more than I need and really enjoy spending time with my friends, so I naturally pick up the bill whenever I can. My friends are appreciative, but they also feel awkward about going out with me sometimes because it feels like they're implicitly asking me to pay, which in their minds is unfair and uncouth. It also could be interpreted as me suggesting that they couldn't pay for themselves.

Another layer of this is that most of my friends were raised in Asian cultures, where fighting over the bill is normal and even expected. It's hard to fight for a $500 restaurant bill for 10 people on near minimum wage, so you can imagine some real mixed emotions when the server obviously doesn't want to split it. I'll pick it up every time, but it's naturally a hit to your pride when compounded over the years no matter how gracious you are about it.

Like the OP of the article, I spend a lot of time thinking about the dynamics at play here. I love and respect my friends, but frankly a weekend at an AirBnB the beach or even a modest ski vacation is just out of their price range most of the time. Sometimes it really is easier if you phrase it with a little white lie about how it came to be in order to preserve their pride, because the real important thing is getting to spend time together.

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